Woman speaks out against misogynistic abuse and is met with misogynistic abuse from men who believe misogynistic abuse doesn’t exist and that she should stop making them look bad.
i really, really dislike the trope in fiction that only the assholes, the bullies, and the “villains” can be homophobic. (this goes for any hateful -ism, really, but given that it was prompted by homophobia i’m going to run with that.)
homophobia would be much easier to dismiss if it only came from the douchebags of the population; if everyone ~good~ looked down on it, defended against it; if the line was clear between good person (accepting) and bad person (hateful). that’s not to say it wouldn’t still be hurtful, but there would be that support there of it’s only the assholes, it’s only the assholes.
unfortunately, what makes those comments hurt is that they more often come from people you love, people you’re friends with, people whose opinions you generally respect - your mom, your friend, your coworker, your teacher… hearing a kid in the hallway call someone a dyke might make me flinch, but it was hearing my grandma say it that made me cry.
it’s that discordance - that people who are otherwise very nice, caring, and intelligent can still have ignorant, hateful opinions - that is lost in a lot of fiction. it’s lazy writing, and - it feels to me - defensive. by designating prejudice only to the villains of the piece, the writers both distance themselves (only assholes! not us!) and erase actual experience. you’re not doing a service to us by creating a world where homophobia is only ever wielded by villains; all you’re doing is reducing an experience you’ve likely never had to flat, simplified flaw.
Do you ever ‘wtf white people’ even though you are a white people.
thank you for blessing my dash with this post.
you’re very welcome, my absolute pleasure :)
Sara Lance is important to me because she made it her priority to defend women from violence; not only defend them, but she also empowered them. Fictional characters she’d saved looked up to her; girl and women in real life watching felt empowered because of her.
I could talk about why personally this has been so painful to me. I could talk about how Sara Lance gave me courage to be more open about my sexuality. I could talk about how Sara Lance paved the way for queer characters in live-action mediums.
But instead I’m gonna talk about the night the episode “The Calm” aired; I was so upset I commented on it on Facebook. A friend of mine replied because her young daughter was inconsolable. She’s been going to genre cons for years, loves comic books — finally there was a character for her! On television nonetheless…. And then, there wasn’t.
It doesn’t matter that there will be another Canary; it doesn’t matter it will be Sara’s sister. What matters is that the episode proved to every young girl watching it that not all superheroes are created/treated equally.
Female superheroes are fallible and mortal and replaceable in the Arrow narrative. Male superheroes get to live through mirakuru, poison arrows; they survive bullets and knee fractures.
Female superheroes don’t.
Back from the weekend! The ol’ tumblr catch-up game commences once more. Responses and replies to messages tomorrow, and yeah, I’m gonna bring up That Post later bc I was busy spending time with my girlfriend instead and haven’t been at a keyboard since Friday.
PSA: because I keep seeing that shitty manipulated photo of Emma Watson on my dash. THAT PHOTO WAS PHOTOSHOPPED. The original photo (with another from the same shoot, is from 2011 with Mariano Vivanco) are pictured above. Please don’t perpetuate this error.
Deliberately spreading an altered image of Emma Watson which purports to show her breasts as a statement against threats of nude photo leaks is the height of hypocrisy and whoever did it should be ashamed. (x)
omg didnt know
Yeah I got an anon telling me about this one, so signal boost